Tools for Divorcing Families

I want to offer some simple, helpful tools to support you as you rebuild your home.


The transition of divorce/separation is monumental, affecting every aspect of life and requiring attention and care to a multitude of details and variables.  Custody, visitation schedules, dividing assets, moving, deciding who gets what, sharing the news with family and friends and schools and the random strangers who ask what your family is doing for the holidays or summer break.  Any one of those pieces can feel overwhelming and exhausting.  With all of the families I’ve supported who are dealing with this transition, I always encourage them to surround themselves with lots of support.  We aren’t meant to do this alone.


The transition of divorce/separation is monumental


Over the last few years, I’ve come to learn about a variety of relevant, helpful resources for families who are in the process of divorce/separation so I thought I’d share the best with you:

 

Books

 

·      Mom’s House, Dad’s House:  Making two homes for your child - Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.

 

·      Dinosaurs Divorce (A Guide for Changing Families) – Marc Brown & Laurie Krasny Brown

 

·      When Mom and Dad Separate:  Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief from Divorce – Marge Heegaard

 

·      Two Homes – Claire Masurel

 

·      My Family’s Changing – Pat Thomas

 

·      Divorce is Not the End of the World:  Zoe’s and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids – Zoe Stern & Evan Stern

 

 

Groups, Classes & Workshops

 

·      Cooperative Parenting San Diego – offers a 3-part class series to help navigate the co-parenting relationship

 

·      Kids’ Turn San Diego – offers groups and classes for both parents and their children

 

·      DivorceCare & DivorceCare4Kids– a faith-based program for parents and children, offered in a format that includes learning and support group elements

 

·      Divorce Support Group – meets bimonthly and offers support, information, resources and encouragement to those going through divorce

 

 

Other Support & Professionals

 

·      Divorce Home Solutions – provide guidance and support in managing the logistics of home transitions

 

·      Pacific Coast Mediation

 

·      San Diego Family Mediation Center

 

·      Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego

 

·      Our Family Wizard – online resource for co-parents to coordinate custody, visitation, etc.

 

Remember, you are not alone.  If you have questions about any of these resources or want to talk further about finding the support your family needs, please feel free to contact me.

 

All my best for your home,

Alair

 

 


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